While consistent consequences are essential to correct behavior, punishment and isolating the bully often prevents him from developing compassion and sensitivity as he remains unaware of the pain inflicted upon the target.  The exception is the ”iceberg bully” who tends not to learn from his transgressions and seems hardwired to be violent. Removal from the environment for the safety of others is thus essential. With many bullies, however, teaching problems solving skills and responsibility for one’s behavior may be the most constructive solution.

Tips to Convert Bullies into Buddies:

1. Behavior modification results from learning, correcting and changing behavior. The bully is expected to examine himself, his behaviors, and the consequences his behavior has had on others as well as the harm done to himself. Generally, bullies lack foresight and thus their reflection and awareness of how they became a victim of their own actions is essential for change to occur. Although the decision-making center in the brain is still under construction, we can learn to tame impulses and make wise choices.

2. The bully must claim ownership of the problem.  Bullies tend to project their issues onto the victims and blame others for their unfortunate circumstances.

3. The bully must develop problem-solving skills. She is required to find ways to “fix it,” prevent future episodes and participate in the healing process of the bullied.

4. There is hope for change when bullies rewrite their scripts and channel their energies into positive outlets, leaving dignity is intact.

The Fear Factor

Like parenting, there are a dozen different approaches recommended for what actions will be the most effective to control problems of aggression. When it comes to intervention, it is not a one-size fits all situation because all people are not alike and neither are all bullies. If there were a simple solution, the problem would not have grown into what many have called an epidemic.

Many of you believe that scaring the heck out of the bully by using fear or aggression is the answer.  Well, it is effective for some, but it only lasts for as long as fear is flashing in his face. You also have to know what they fear and expulsion from school is rarely something that is feared by the bully. In fact, it is often viewed as a reward as most bullies are not concerned about how missing science class will mess up their grade point average.  Punitive approaches require constant supervision to catch the bully at the right time and a full time security guard can be expensive.

Schools must take action. A mother was distraught when her son was threatened by several students and school authorities said nothing could be done without witnesses. Her son now faces expulsion because he took a knife with him to school for protection. The system needs to provide protection, not guns and knives. While her son is being expelled, the bullies continue to harass others.

Do Rules Work Without Religion

Interesting research reveals what changes behavior. In the past when religion was more of an active part of people’s lives, the fear of being accountable to our Maker and the wrath of God made it more convincing to love thy neighbor as thyself.  Heaven, not hell, became a goal and all religions had some clear commandments that needed to be followed to get through those pearly gates. It was a form of supernatural supervision.

Recently, a study was done on how people conformed to the rules when supervised. As you might guess, there was less obedience when the test group was left without supervision. However, when they were told there was a supernatural force that was observing their behavior and they would be held accountable, the conformity to social mores was just as high as when there was an actual supervisor in the room.

Since religion is less of an influence in society today, we are fighting some basic instincts without the superego that religion once provided.  Many of you are respectful of the rights of others and live with integrity. You come from a good place and do the right thing whether people are watching or there is not an external consequence. However, that is no longer the majority of people and thus more of our tax dollars go toward security and protection than ever before. Unfortunately, fear is often a necessary deterrent to keep law and order, but the control and order exist only when supervision and the threat of consequences are in place. While necessary, it is not the ideal.  Obviously, changing the hearts and minds of people to respect and honor others would be a better alternative.

Are We Teaching Violence

Most research clearly indicates that the impact of violence in video games, movies, TV, and the lyrics often heard in rap and heavy metal music, is creating a violent society.  Exposure to violence at a young age not only causes a child to become desensitized to violence, but it also suggests that it is a quick and easy way to solve problems and conflicts and to feel good fast – the mantra of our modern society. Then too, technology, with its high definition, visual clarity and impact to the senses, makes it much more difficult to differentiate imagination or a movie from reality.

Since many households do not have positive, strong parental role models to counteract the brainwashing of the violence introduced as gaming, it often is a child’s first and only influence of how people relate and interact. If there are not warm, loving and supportive parents to suggest alternative ways, a child’s choices are limited to what he knows. Without supervision, a child is often exposed to considerable violence in the formative years, ages 1-5, and those first impressions are lasting impressions.  During those years, children experience a slower, Alpha brainwave activity state, and the slower the brainwave activity, the more deeply rooted and lasting the impression. This is why prevention must be taught from the moment of conception or at least at birth. Garbage in…garbage out. You can’t keep feeding a young mind with violence and expect to have a caring, compassionate child. The price of prevention is a pittance compared to intervention and correction, so let’s wise up and change systems that are not effective.

Edie Raether, known as the Bully Buster, is an international speaker, trainer and bestselling author of seven books including Stop Bullying Now  A behavioral psychology expert and family therapist, Edie has also been a college professor and talk show host with ABC. Visit www.stopbullyingwithedie.com.  Contact her at [email protected] or (704) 658-8997.

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DreamDazzlers  for the little girls who wanna have fun.   What a cool line of fantasy full dress up accessories.  Your little darling will look adorable  while her imaginary worlds can explode with all the different party themes  available.

Every child dreams of dressing up in the Dream Dazzle outfits, where pink sparkles are a little girls fav as she parades in her feathered boa.   How about bopping down the hall all lined with her faithful fans.  A big pretend star or real if you want is hanging on the door with her  name all in glitter.  She enters her pop star  dressing room,  and there hangs a Dream Dazzlers performing costume just waiting for her to transform into a rockin rockette.  Oh!!  But she must visit the salon first to create her fabulous hair and make up that will knock her fans off their feet all wanting to look just the same..  Waalahh a STAR IS BORN!!  Fans are screaming and waving their arms.  Every child dreams of making music like a pop star on her own stage,  The lights are on the stage is set.  Your little pop star grabs her Dazzlin’ Light N’ Sound Microphone and Stand.  You hear the keyboard and the guitar playing in the background and the show begins.  After the show giving the performance of her life it’s time to rest and relax like royalty and Dream Dazzlers has the ultimate dress-up party kit, fit for a Princess.

Everything she needs to be crowned a queen for the day.   Bring absolute joy inviting friends over.   Little girls love to play dress up and Dream Dazzlers have everything you could ask for  to fuel their imaginations for hours of fun as you look on with lots of joy reminiscing  too of the days of your Dream Dazzlers When all is said and done  the Dream Dazzlers have everything you need for hours of imaginative fun.  it’s easy to become whatever you want!  Kids can experience hours of enjoyment as they pretend to be fairies, princesses, cheerleaders and more.

Adoption is generally the recourse by which childless couples are granted lawful parenthood and custody of a homeless child. It also refers to a humanitarian act by which couples or individuals take the custody of a child under the care of a children’s home and adopt the child as their daughter/son.

There are adoption agencies which are managed by people who volunteer to run the agencies and maintain records of children they are asked to look after. When people who are desirous of taking children in Adoption visit these agencies, they are required to furnish information about themselves, their occupation, domestic and financial status. They also have to explain clearly what exactly their motivation for adoption is.

Some procedure is followed before the child is given to a couple or individual in adoption. The adoption agency prepares reports such as child study reports, home study reports etc. The child might even be turned over to the parents for a certain period during which the home of the prospective adopters is under observation. After that period the agency prepares an opinion and sends all this opinion to government authorities such as courts or bureaucratic agencies, which after a length of time issue court orders or certificates by which the couple or individual taking the child in adoption are declared to be the lawful parents of the child that they have adopted.

The adopting agencies have been doing praiseworthy work in helping parents understand the demands created by and challenges they have to overcome due to the adoption. They take very good care of the children and make sure that they face no dearth of love and affection simply because they have no parents. These adoption agencies have excellent facilities for bringing up children. They have cribs, tot lots, study rooms, dorms and libraries to take good care of children of all age groups.  Every child’s behavior and habits and learning abilities are noted and they are given to parents who can refer to it anytime. They manage the facilities very well and spend their finances prudently for the welfare and development of children. They also give advice and information to people who show interest in adopting the agency’s wards.

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E-Mail Address: [email protected]

Address P.O. Box : 16644

City : Sugarland

State(Province) : TX

Postal Code : 77496

Country : USA

Phone Number : 202-736-9130

Fax Number : 202-736-9080

Viva Design Inc. is pleased to announce the release its first Love to Read DVD series for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers. Its playfully animated alphabet and words, the engaging images inspire a child’s desire to read. Parents will also be delighted by the digital downloads, free coloring pages, and animated flashcards offered at www.lovetoread.com.

As the mom of Cosima and Nikolas, Love to Read’s creative director Ulrike Kerber developed the concept while sharing her love of reading with them. Not satisfied with existing products, the graphic designer with extensive experience in animation and film created her own beautiful DVD series for children. She believes that your child can learn to read and that an introduction to reading is vital for early childhood development.

In addition to beginning letter recognition, Love to Read is a playful learning experience that exposes children to design, art, an eclectic mix of music, and filmmaking. The 40-minute DVD presents the alphabet in stop-motion animation made with simple recyclable household materials such as noodles, licorice, rice, foil, and marshmallows. The first edition of this DVD for kids focuses on letters and single words with whimsical story lines that stimulate them to explore, recognize, and remember the alphabet.

Even parents will enjoy Love to Read with its hi-end production and “how to” section on creating simple animation with a digital camera. The website also includes an Alphabet Blog with alphabets designed by various artists.

As an excellent resource for caregivers and teachers, the Love to Read DVD will soon also be released in Spanish and German. This allows the DVDs to be used as an introduction to foreign languages. Love to Read books, coloring pages, memory games, creative kits, and iphone/ipad applications are planned for the near future.

About Viva Design: The motion graphics company Viva Design Inc. was founded in 1998 by Ulrike Kerber. Based in Santa Barbara, California, it has won awards and nominations such as The Television Academy Emmy nomination, New York Festival, BDA, Omni Awards, Type Directors’ Club Award, and Art Director’s Club Award. In addition to its own Love to Read brand, Viva Design has produced projects for clients such as ABC, Discovery Channel, Disney Channel, Travel Channel, and Warner Brothers. For more information, please see www.VivaDesign.com.

Contact Information:

Ulrike Kerber – Love To Read

[email protected]
310-466-1154

Almost every parent will tell you that they spend most of their free time tidying the children’s nursery or bedroom. Parents find that toys and clothing quickly take up the whole floor space and bombard your child’s bedroom or nursery with unnecessary clutter.

Baby bedding specialists, Bedebyes know the importance of keeping your child’s nursery tidy and know that proud parents like to keep their child’s space inviting and organised for themselves, other people and more importantly, their child.

To mark this importance, Bedebyes have come up with some top tips to keeping your children’s nursery in tip top condition.

1.Use storage space wisely. A good way to keep clutter to a minimum is to use the space you have wisely. Store clothing and toys in boxes beneath the bed to save space in other areas of the nursery or bedroom.

A good idea is to store winter clothes during the summer months in the loft or spare room to create more space for new clothes bought throughout the year.

To save floor space, install shelves around the room but make sure they are not too high so your child can still reach them. At Bedebyes the team have created a variety of different storage solutions such as the nappy stacker or laundry basket to eliminate clutter and keep the place clean and tidy.

2.A home for every item. A good idea to keep the nursery tidy is to make sure that each item has a home. This method will help you and your child in knowing where each item should be kept, also in the long run helping your child to become organised and carry a little responsibility in keeping their room neat and tidy. You could create a reading area, play area, etc.

At Bedebyes, the team have come up with a nappy stacker to keep all your essentials in one place.

3.Use colour coding techniques. Make your child’s nursery a place they want to play in. Using colour code techniques you can help them learn where to put their clothes and toys and how to keep the place neat and tidy. Buy drawers or shelves in bright colours and place a coloured sticker to match each one of your child’s toys. That way your child can look at the bottom of the toy and see where the item belongs in their room.

4.Decorate the Nursery with a theme. Children love similarity and things they can relate to. A good way to keep consistency in your nursery is to create a theme which they will love and enjoy. Ideas like an underwater theme or Princess Theme for girl nursery bedding. At Bedebyes, the team have come up with some lovable collections which will make any parent heart melt.

The charming collections, Spike and Buzz, a hedgehog and bee; Bramble and Smudge two little bears, Zippy Zebra and Purfect the cat, are to be incorporated into the larger collections and packages, to ensure parents have that special nursery for their precious child.

The little animals, across the four collections, are carefully embroidered onto the luxurious fabrics, creating a completely different style and atmosphere for all expecting parents, and a unique delightful charm for the little ones nursery.

The Spike and Buzz collection adorns a playful bee and adorable hedgehog, luxuriously appliquéd onto the exquisite fabrics. The soft, woven fabrics are encompassed in stripes varying in shades of buttercup, orange, lime and toffee with aqua accents, finished with rich cream elements to complement the colourful shades.

Beautifully finished with pin tucks, badge detailing and contemporary design, this nursery collection creates a picturesque interior for parents and their newborn to enjoy.

Bramble and Smudge are beautifully embroidered on luxurious appliquéd fabrics, baby soft cord, snugly fleece and linen, complemented by faux leather detailing. Finished with natural shades of vanilla, oatmeal, chocolate brown, this classic range holds a timeless elegance, making it a popular choice for a newborn and their nursery.

The character of Zippy Zebra is carefully embroidered onto the quirky collection, complemented by badge details, appliquéd fabrics and piping, expressing the lovable charms of Zippy. The playful collection combines luxurious velour, soft cotton waffle and a fun swirl print, mixed with warm shades of orange, cherry and chocolate on rich cream, highlighted with a twist of aqua. Purfect is an adorable pink collection perfect for baby girl bedding. The collection features large embroideries in bubble gum pink and fresh aqua, finished with a beautifully embellished pink trim. The fresh flower print is teamed with Purfects own gingham print, becoming that finishing touch to a baby girls nursery. Purfect the playful kitten is featured throughout the range with each product finished with appliqué and ribbon detailing.

For more information about all their products and services visit the Bedebyes website today or call 0808 202 4591.

About Bedebyes:

The Bedebyes collection is designed and produced by a team with over 15 years experience in fabric design, specialising in the nursing industry. The manufacturing of the products is to the highest of standards and meet high expectations of future parents.

Safety and performance are key players in the production of Bedebyes products, therefore the company go beyond the necessary British and European standards at UCAS test facilities to ensure customers they are receiving quality products for their child. Bedebyes also offer its visitors co-ordinating fabric of the four collections, which can be used on other accessories within the home.

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Name: Bedebyes

Email: [email protected]

Phone: 0808 202 4591

Address: Fleets Lane

Rylstone

Skipton

North Yorkshire

BD23 6NA

www.bedebyes.com

Country: United Kingdom

San Diego, CA June 23, 2010 – Until the invention of the contact lens, eyeglasses were the only way your eye sight could be corrected. Now, since the mainstream introduction of LASIK eye surgery, millions have undergone the procedure because of its relative effectiveness and safety. However, with the increasing popularity of LASIK eye surgery come some important questions being asked to adults regarding their children. The main concern being wether or not it is safe for children to undergo LASIK eye surgery to avoid glasses.

The LASIK (laser-assisted in situ keratomileusis) process replaces your eyes misshaped lens with a perfect artificial lens. It is recommended that a candidate for LASIK eye surgery should be at least 18 and 21 years old. Ever since the introduction of LASIK eye surgery, people have been inquiring about what benefits this procedure may have for children. This has been a debatable and somewhat controversial topic and has important factors to consider before making a decision regarding a procedure.

A San Diego LASIK eye surgery specialist, Lisa Ross, advised that unless a child has extreme vision problems, a surgeon will not recommend LASIK eye surgery. The reason for this is that a child’s eyes do not completely develop until around the eighteen year. There are several reasons the LASIK eye surgery is stipulated for older patients, because a child would be restless and sedation would be necessary. The surgery is performed while the patient was awake, and older patients would be able to control their movements, and remain still.

Although there is not a significant amount of data on the topic, there is little evidence to support the claim that LASIK eye surgery is safe for young children. A child’s eyes are constantly changing through the development process as they age, and are typically not nearly complete developing until the child is at least 18 years old and can sometimes take even longer. The developmental process of the eye will vary slightly from person to person but it is more advisable for those over the age of 21 to look into LASIK eye surgery.

Age is a factor with LASIK eye surgery. Older individuals are also concerned, as to whether they will be candidates for LASIK eye surgery, further down the road, after the age of forty. As an individual ages they should be concerned that eye problems may develop that cannot be corrected with LASIK eye surgery. For example, when the eyes lens cannot focus due to its inflexibility, not being able to change its focus between objects that are far or near – this is called “presbyopia.” LASIK eye surgery has no effect on this type of eye condition.

When seeking answers regarding LASIK eye surgery, It’s always recommended to consult with a licensed LASIK professional.

For additional information, contact Lisa Ross:

San Diego LASIK
926 8th Ave.
San Diego, CA 92101
(619) 393-6600
http://www.lasiksandiegoeye.com

Having difficulties deciding what to get your daughter for her birthday? No problem! Dolls pushchairs (DollsPushchairs.com) is here to help, with insight into the highest quality doll pushchairs available on the market today, at the most reasonable prices. Listing the top brands for all pushchairs and prams on the homepage, Dolls pushchairs (DollsPushchairs.com) has reviews and deals for Silver Cross, Mamas and Papas, Zapf, and more! Knowing how difficult it is to compare prices and quality of items across a broad spectrum of websites, Jules and Steve have canvased the internet to create a centralized location from which you can get all of your doll accessory information!

Little girls have always, by nature, displayed a passion and enjoyment in the caretaking of dolls and plastic infants. While you may have already purchased your daughter a doll and all of the clothes and toys the doll could ever hope for, choosing a pushchair can be a difficult matter if you do not know what you are looking for. Sure, these items have all been designed for the use of children, but that doesn’t mean that every unit is built with the utmost quality parts and high engineering standards. This website will allow you to read the reviews and view the recommendations of parents who have been looking to purchase a similar item for their child, giving you confidence and peace of mind with your purchase.

Created and maintained by two parents who had difficulties selecting a pram for their daughter’s birthday, you can be certain that this website will give you the most accurate and up to date information to help you purchase the right product. Whether you are looking to purchase a vintage pushchair, an antique, or a new age model, this website can help. The authors and creators of this website have collected several of their top picks, all conveniently available for purchase on Amazon.co.UK, and placed them in a flash based widget right on the homepage, and all of the pages for the different types of pushchairs, so you can see what is available, and what other parents have found to accessorize their daughters’ dolls.

DollsPushchairs.com not only lists the great deals available for you, but they also offer descriptions and reviews of each manufacturer, to give you an idea of the quality and features that each company offers you before you dive into blindly choosing a provider. Ensuring the safety of your beloved little girl is just as important as making sure she gets an amazing gift on her birthday, so why would you pick out a product made by a factory that was not recommended by other parents?

Hands down, DollsPushchairs.com is the easiest website to visit if you are looking to purchase a gift for your daughter, sister, niece, or granddaughter, and you do now know the top producers and products available. It is comforting knowing that you are able to purchase within the recommendations of caring parents, who want to make the recipient of your gift safe, as well as happy.

Indianapolis, IN, 26 May 2010 : The popular playground equipment selling store, AAA State of Play, is selling the recycled plastic sport bench just for $156.99. The bench, which is originally priced for $180.00 is being sold at a special discounted price only till the stock lasts.

“AAA State of Play has attained a popular name in the playground equipment selling industry because of the highest quality products it sells at reasonable price. Our current deal on recycled plastic sport benches is not worth missing. The benches that are originally priced at $180.00 are being sold just for $156.99. We are getting lot of queries and order requests from buyers & our team is making sure that all their queries are answered in the least possible time,” said the Marketing Head of the Online Store.

The recycled plastic sport bench is one of the bestsellers at AAA State of Play. Other than this, the online playground equipment store is also giving great deals on rock tower, swings and other indoor as well as outdoor benches.

It is the unique design and affordable price of products sold by AAA State of Play, that makes it a leader in the online playground equipment selling market. The preschool playground equipment selling store ensures that no compromise is made with the quality of the products, so that they have a longer and durable life.

About AAA State of Play

AAA State of Play is a trusted online store that sells variety of indoor and outdoor playground equipment at competitive prices. It is the quality-driven approach & unmatched customer service of the store that makes it a renowned and credible name amongst online shoppers.

Contact Details

AAA State of Play
10725 Hidden Oak Way
Indianapolis, IN 46236
1-877-826-2776
1-317-826-2777
Website : http://www.aaastateofplay.com/

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A new website that was launched a few months ago tries to bring the once famous big wheel tricycle back to life. They provide an independent review of the best big wheel tricycles available for different age groups. Most of these big wheels are unisex while some of them have ‘boys’ big wheel tricycles’ or ‘girls’ big wheel tricycles written all over them.

Mr. Chuck Rabel, the creator of this website says that his intention is to provide a comprehensive review about the best big wheel tricycle models that are available today. He says that unlike in the 1970’s there are far too many models of big wheels for kids available today and that without an independent review, it is often too difficult for the parents to make a decision on what model of big wheel tricycle to purchase.

He goes on to describe that there are various models of big wheel tricycles that come in different colors, sizes, shapes and functionalities. He brought our attention to a specific model of a big wheel trike that was manufactured by none other than Razor. This particular tricycle toy was named the Razor Rip-Rider 360. The ‘360’ stands for the fact that this big wheel tricycle can actually spin 360 degrees. It is anything but a traditional bicycle. Actually this model has 2 distinguishing features from the traditional big wheel tricycle. For one, it can spin 360 degrees. Secondly, it is also a drifting ride-on. Mr. Rabel also says that some parents hesitate to buy this toy to their children as soon as they hear about these two extraordinary features. However, they often change their minds when they learn that in spite of having all these adventurous features, the Razor Rip Rider has also been named a top toy for 2009 by both Parents and Parenting magazines. The dual inclined caster wheels allow resistance-free drifting and spinning. In addition, the free-wheel system allows the rider to gain incredible coasting speeds. This big wheel tricycle has been designed for riders aged five and older and is not a toy for kids younger than that.
This website, aptly named Big Wheel Tricycle, has been launched to coincide with the spring season when the weather is ideal for outdoor playing. Not only will kids have tons of fun on big wheels, but they will also get tons of exercise. These big wheel tricycles are a perfect solution for kids to shed those extra pounds and we need to promote these big wheels and help the world overcome child obesity!

Avon, Ohio, 19 May 2010 : The bonded rubber safety surfaces manufacturer, PlayScapes Systems is also installing the products at the playground, recreational area and pool of customer. The team of experienced installers ensures that a reliable fixing work is done from their end, so that clients doesn’t find any problem with the system later.

“The team of installers at PlayScapes Systems have years of experience in installing the rubber safety surfaces. We try to communicate with the customer at every step just to provide the best service and assistance. Our team will ensure that all the demands of customers are taken care of, so that we are able to gain credibility in the industry,” said one installation expert of the Company.

PlayScapes Systems has been manufacturing playground surfaces that meet the laid ASTM, ADA and CPSC standards. All the products are used in schools, day care centers, playgrounds, waterparks and other recreational facilities.

The playground rubber surface made by PlayScapes comes in multiple surfacing options that also include traditional 2-layer poured-in-place system. Available in attractive color combinations, these systems reduce the chances of head injury and also provide a comfortable surface.

About PlayScapes Systems

PlayScapes Systems is leading manufacturer and distributor of bonded rubber safety surfaces that are installed in playgrounds, swimming pools and other recreational facilities. The company has suppliers in different areas of the world that will save your freight costs. The products manufactured undergo several quality checks right from quote stage to final touches, so that they are durable and have longer life.

Contact Details

Playscapes Systems
DBA: All Rubber Surfaces36958 Detrot Road
Avon, Ohio 44011
Toll Free (877) 826-2776
Local (317) 826-2777
Fax (317) 823-3567
Website: http://www.allrubbersurfaces.com/

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